Parenting Class: Raising Kids with Self Confidence

Parenting Class: Raising Kids with Self Confidence

Raising Kids with Self Confidence

It all starts by providing a safe, loving environment where children feel accepted.

As they develop and try new things or do something difficult for them to accomplish, this will boost their confidence in themselves.

If the parent takes an interest in what interests the kid – whether it be sports or arts- then there may be more opportunities to explore those talents further, which will also positively affect self-esteem levels over time!


As a mom, I often question whether or not I’m doing the best job I can.

Am I raising kids with self-confidence?

Kids that will be independent and resilient?

 Am I patient enough?

Am I attentive enough?

Am I helping my kids become their best selves?

Am I succeeding as a parent, or am I failing, or somewhere in the middle?

Then I STOP!

I stop all the questioning, self-doubt, and self-ridicule, and I remind myself that my boys are happy, healthy, and flourishing!

Usually, we are so much more ‘good’ than ‘bad,’ and maybe we should STOP being so hard on ourselves, just as I would do in a parenting class.


Parenting isn’t About Beating Yourself up for Your Mistakes.

It’s more about embracing the crazy parent-child love that we all experience. It is about doing our best and being okay with mistakes, failures, and overall well-being.

Product development is about learning from our mistakes and failures in parenting, fixing them for the next time, and learning from our misses.

These moments allow us to grow as parents and as individuals.

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Isn’t this precisely what we are trying to teach our children? That we don’t have to be perfect? Our mistakes are opportunities for learning and growth.

It’s not a time to feel bad about yourself; it’s time to become better versions of ourselves.

Let us stop and ask ourselves an important question: AM I DOING THE BEST I CAN AS A PARENT? If you answer ‘yes,’ stop wondering, questioning, ridiculing yourself! We all make mistakes sometimes, and this is not all bad. We can learn from mistakes, right?

We should start by looking at our own mistakes as opportunities for growth and improvement. Then, with this new outlook, we can genuinely begin to teach our kids how to be confident and independent.

To do this, we can follow simple steps to raising kids, building your child’s independence and self-confidence.



Set High, But Achievable Expectations

We often feel that it’s easier and faster just to do it ourselves. We want to put on their jacket and get on their shoes to move out the door.

We want to pack their bags to ensure the task gets done correctly. We nag them to do their homework so they don’t get a bad mark.

However, when we do it all for our kids, we are not helping. We are hindering them. We are telling our children that they are not capable or responsible enough to do it themselves.

We are telling them that we, as adults, can do it better.

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We are not building their self-esteem, as we are not setting expectations that they can rise to. So, instead, I encourage you to ensure there are a few extra minutes today to slow down, stop rushing and let them tie their shoes and zip up their coats.

Please give them the opportunities to do things for themselves and learn from their successes and mistakes.


Set the Stage for Success: Teach, Role Play and Practice

When you want your kids to meet expectations with ease, it is essential to teach them upfront. Therefore, we use a process called frontloading.

Front-loading will help decrease anxiety and set your kids up for success. It is helpful to plan some practice runs and role-play the expectations before you begin to accomplish this.

You can pretend it is a typical school day and have your child get ready independently. Follow their morning routine chart (routine charts are your best friends, by the way!) and help your child where assistance is needed and requested.

When your child leaves the house for school on their own, avoid reminding them of something or nagging. You have done your job with front loading and practicing.

Now, it’s their turn!

Know that they are CAPABLE, and they CAN do it!


Understanding Failure is Important

After you have trained, practiced, and role-played these activities with your child, it is safe to say that you’ve done your job.

Once you hit this stage, you mustn’t BAIL THEM OUT! For example, if they forget their homework, don’t drive it to school.

If they learn what failure feels like and are allowed to learn from their mistakes, it’s then that they will learn to be responsible and gain independence.

If you continue to nag them by reminding them to put their shoes on, telling them to pack their bags, and more, then you have defeated the purpose and are reinforcing that you don’t feel confident in their ability.

Try not to worry about their failures. Instead, think of failures or missteps as learning opportunities and give them the ability to grow.

After mistakes occur, it’s your chance to help them develop solutions to fix them moving forward. That’s where positive parenting comes in!


Let Natural Consequences Play Out

Natural consequences are lovely learning tools when you let them play out. But, as mentioned previously, let them forget their homework or sports equipment.

Let them go to school without their coat if they forget it or refuse to wear it.

When they are cold for one day, they will remember their jacket the next. They are learning from their errors. If you continually remind, then they will frequently forget! Many parents struggle to think about their kids being uncomfortable, even for a second.

But it will teach them to be more mindful next time. It will lead to a new and better result in the future. You are setting your child up for success!

These are opportunities for them to grow and develop. Don’t rob them of these chances to gain independence. Instead, help them achieve even more autonomy by allowing the natural consequences to occur.


Allow your Child the Opportunity to Try, Learn, Succeed and Fail

Once you’ve followed the steps above and answered any questions they may have, then it’s time to step back. Please step back and let them experience life. Please step back and watch them succeed.

Please step back and watch them fail and learn from these mistakes and natural consequences. Then, step back and watch their independence skyrocket.

Now you can sit back, knowing that you are parenting and offering them opportunities to grow into responsible, capable adults!


Final Thoughts

It’s important to realize that accepting mistakes allows us to learn from them. We can use previous mistakes as opportunities for growth.

Mistakes are an inevitable part of being human; they shouldn’t be used to define us or our value. So let go of the fear that you are not good enough.

We all make mistakes sometimes – learn from yours and move forward with a better understanding. That way, when your children inevitably make their own mistakes in life, you will have experience on which to draw and encouragement to offer them.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the medical advice for building self-confidence?

From play to chores, encourage effort and help kids acquire skills. Self-confidence originates from their own accomplishments.


Do families play a part in self-confidence?

When overbearing or controlling, the parent deprives their children of opportunities to explore themselves and what they want in their life. This will usually have an adverse effect on how confident they feel about who they are and where their place in this world is.


How do people promote self-confidence in their children?

Self-esteem refers to the thoughts and feelings that a person has about themselves. Self-esteem gives children confidence in their own abilities, leading them to try new things or feel comfortable making mistakes. Allow your child to make decisions and reap the rewards – this will lead to a boost in self-esteem and self-confidence.


Does audience insight affect children’s self-esteem?

Children, adults, and seniors are all susceptible to audience insight due to social media.


Do parenting classes work?

Parenting classes are an invaluable resource for parents. They provide helpful information and skills and a chance to meet other parents experiencing similar challenges in raising their children. There’s a parenting class out there that will suit your needs!



Dr. Dina Kulik, Parent Playbook

Author, Dr. Dina Kulik

Author, Dr. Dina Kulik

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